My Unique Approach to Preventing and Treating Perinatal Disorders
In my experience, expecting and new parents seek out help because they want to improve some aspect of their experience. This is commonly because the reality doesn’t match what their expectations are. Sometimes, older, deeper issues and experiences affect the outcome of therapy…but most often I find that mothers and fathers don’t know HOW to focus on the steps they need to take or even WHAT skills they need to develop.
New parents can spend a lot of time and money looking for the answers to WHY questions. “Why don’t I feel joy now that my baby is here”, “Why can’t I relax when someone else is holding my baby”, “Why am I having difficulty breastfeeding”, “Why won’t my baby sleep?”
When you are exhausted and worried about your baby and the way you are feeling, finding the answers to the WHY questions becomes all consuming. It’s at this time that the “wild goose chase” often begins for a new family. Well-meaning providers refer the new mother and father to the breastfeeding experts and the sleep specialists and the psychiatrists and more. Afterwards, they are even more exhausted and confused! With a new family there is such a thing as “too many cooks in the kitchen.” Parents aren’t finding the solutions that last and many find themselves in a similar spot weeks or months later or after the arrival of a second baby.
I describe myself as a HOW therapist. My work with mothers and fathers is grounded in developing and teaching solutions and strategies. Together, we create the skills they need and apply them to the challenges they face. The journey to becoming a parent is filled with brand new feelings and experiences. Like learning any new skill, it’s important to seek out the very best teacher for you!